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An affectionate relationship is a two way obsession, excluding
that in today’s relationship(s) you experience some blunders and
absurdities. All these are done to
people and don’t ever think you’re better, your partner does not bamboozle,
s/he never been shagged outside a club or in the toilets. Everyone have their
moments of getting sloshed and screwed and trust me a new sex is always nice, imagine when you steal condensed milk – will you enjoy it if you were forced to
eat the whole tin?
You need to carefully scrutinize what s/he is up to – after you
left them for a good year to pursue your studies and only to find out your
partner is a porn addict, all saved in their mobile phone. The above
mentioned can cause your partner or pair to cheat on you big time, it is partly
wrapped in bad tendencies thus you must watch out for all the symptoms. Some people have warm blankets to keep him or her wrapped up with a hot cup of sex
while you’re studying or also wrapped up in University blankets by someone’s
partner.
Watching porn and going through nude pictures while your
partner is not present, well, you get thrills watching others perform sex and
you start to think about going outside to win a one night stand, now remember, you’re
faced with the risk of all sorts of diseases. Does watching porn make you
visualise that your partner is with you? Sounds very odd, but your thrills come
from watching and fantasizing about it more than having faith in your relationship.
Another major element or
rather problem that causes cheating in a relationship is when we don't get what we expected to get, which can be
materialistic things, money, love and or not limited to sex. We mostly get into relationships
for our own ends and that’s unfair to the other person, because you’ll end up
cheating. So make sure you’re clear of each other’s intentions from the beginning.
Take time to know each-other and don’t let s/he rush you into bed, sex might
keep or drive the other person away – there’s a myth that sex makes the love
relationship tough.
Yes you’re frustrated
because the one you thought was yours dumped you like a hot potato, honestly,
grow up and take a step forward because you’re not and never will be the first
one to be cheated, ahead the road is not like walking in a bread spread. As I mentioned
above make your intentions crystal clear, whether the problem is emotional or
physical we should not really mind about that but address the issue at hand
from its genesis to a solution, whether the solution will be for the best or “Let’s break
up”.
It is very hard to make sure
your relationship stays healthy and blunders like cheating do not creep in easily.
Should you be in a situation to cheat, well, address the positive things that your significant one gives you – this means allowing your best ever
first kiss, the day your gifted organs met, how was it? How long have your partner
been there for you? Is this hang and shag me going to make you happy? Should
the above questions come to your mind, then I don’t see the reason for you to
cheat.
Another thing I came
across and hate it with a passion, is the suspicion that one of us is cheating. Suspicion can drive the other person to actually do the things you
keep on plastering on them. So some of us get surprised when we find out that
our partners are cheating with people who look less handsome or beautiful than
us, but be alert 'sometimes' cheating is emotionally based and not about the
looks.
So the best way to stop infidelity
is to stop it before it happens. So you need pro-active ways to stop your
partner from cheating. As you read this column I am sure you have picked up
communication is the master of all. Spice up your sex life and stop acting like
a horse while your partner wants to explore new things. Pay attention to each
other as needed in any relationship and avoid people who always bring back your
partner’s past sex life and cheating troubles – this is a new relationship so focus on that now.
Your partner might just cheat to spite
the hell out of your miserable thoughts and suspicions about them. All of
us went through the misery of cheating and being cheated, so don’t act all
suspicious as if you’re the holly one. Sometimes acting as if you don’t care
while you suspect your partner is cheating and they know you’re suspecting
them, there are great chances that it will drive them to the rim. They will think
you don’t care, while you’re suppressing your feelings and a great chance to
address the issue at hand. So I would not advice anyone to practice the
afore-mentioned.
Don’t allow things to depreciate as this may cause a great or irreparable harm to your relationship. As I conclude, those who cheat are the first ones to be arrogant when they find out their partner is cheating.
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